Friday, February 14, 2014

Negative Thinking



                                           Negative Thinking

1. Negative thinking has been associated as the ills of all wrong things like depression, failing, setbacks and positive thinking as the savior. It leads to a general impression that negative thinking is always bad and positive thinking always good. But let us ponder for a minute about whether a positive thinking can exist without negative thinking. I fact positive and negative thinking are two sides of the same coin and can not exist without the other. Only positive thing is utopian concept and is far away from reality. They are two sides of the same coin. They are on the two ends of the same spectrum where in between negative and positive both exist with varying degree depending upon the position on the spectrum.
2. There are some problems for which at present no solution exits, whether logical or creative. But in the present world these problems will continue to exist and one can not either just ignore them or wish they do not exist. These problems can at best be managed and one has to learn to live with them in a day to day life. These are the problems hat are best handled by positive thinking without solving them but learning with positive thinking as to live with them and still carry on day to day work.
3. Negative thinking is more prevalent than positive thinking as a natural way. Negative thinking does not require any deliberate effort from the person as it is a natural outcome of the present day world whereas positive thinking requires a deliberate effort from an individual. It is quite natural due to a human tendency to blame others or circumstances on your failure rather than look at it as your own shortcoming. We tend to remember more as to what all wrong or bad things happened in our lives than the good things. If it is a natural tendency then why we tend to blame negative thinking to our failures? It is not the negative thinking that is bad but the negative thinking which leads to negative thoughts and finally to negative action and which becomes the source of our failure in future also.
4. Negative thinking like greed, anger, depression, blaming others and hatred are like viruses because not only they lead to negative action but also tend to simulate the same thoughts in other persons around us and thus leading to a catalytic reaction which only ends in getting the situation out of control.
5. Negative thinking has its own importance which is wither underplayed or not understood at all as it is a natural outcome of human experience and behavior and on the other side it is incorrect to label it as leading to negative thoughts and actions. A negative thinking can also lead one to positive and healthy thoughts and actions provided one understands that where one stands and uses it as springboard to launch himself back to getting on his feet. This will lead one to positive thoughts and to a better and positive outcome and person.
6. By choosing as to how we are going to view the setback we can change the thinking from negative to positive and our actions from negative to positive. It is when you view these setbacks not as failure but as simple points on the learning curve that you gravitate towards more and more positive thinking and actions. No amount of positive thinking is going to get rid of these setbacks or failure as they will always be there being a part of the same system but what you can do is to use these to launch yourself to more actions , more efforts and hence leading to success in life. It is your thinking, your viewing and your behavior to these failures which will turn a failure into ultimate success and nothing succeeds like success. If you view it as failure, setbacks then it will take you to gloom, depression, self pity and anger towards others but if you view it as a launching pad then it will take you to future success. If you are lying flat on the ground then you can not go down any further and it the last positive n your life. You can either lay inert there only or use your hands o get up and launch your self once again with more vigor, effort and determination. It is just a matter of how you are going to view them. Negative thinking does not have to be liability but in my opinion it is that negative people are more realistic in their life provided they learn to balance and give the right weight age ton negative and positive in their life. A realistic person tends to anticipate the potential problems and situations more easily and in a better way than a overly optimistic person. 
7. We have been told repeatedly that to be a successful person you have to be positive towards life and negativity leads to failure. Therefore, our whole life we keep making deliberate and conscious effort to change our thinking towards positive and thus waste a major art of our energy, time and efforts to achieve it. Hence less and less time energy is available to put our thoughts into action. A major part our effort goes into combating this negativity. Why fight it when it is just the other side of the same coin, why not use it as a launching pad to much better results. Why keep making efforts to change yourself when all that is required is to accept it as it is and channel it to more positive actions. Do not change the thinking but just change your view in order to look into it from a different perspective.
8.  Most of the decision makers use imagination to create a worst case scenario. It is like creating a worst possible outcome in a given situation and decision making process. Some people tend to label it as a negative or pessimistic approach but it allows one to develop plan to deal with these worst case scenarios and one is always prepared to deal with it. This eliminates the chances of failure and leads one to better results in every possible scenario. This is a classic case where a negative thinking has been successfully uses to achieve success in the end. In fact the source of our problem is not this negativity but we have chosen an uninspiring and unchallenging task that brings forth this negativity. It is always good to plan for the worst but hope and make efforts for the best.
9. It is not that negative thinking is the root cause of all your ills and misfortune but it is your false belief to be so and you use it as a base to attach all your failures and misfortune to it. The only way out is to start a fresh thinking  with a brand new perspective of having to over come your shortcomings and failures and start seeing it as a springboard from where one can launch itself to a more better result. This new action with the reasons of your last failure in the background is what will lead you to success in your life. So take control of your thinking, emotions and thoughts so that you can become a better and successful person. Think of it as the lowest where you can reach and it is no further down you can go but one up and up as long as you use your arms as a spring board.

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